Last night I had a conversation with some friends that really opened my eyes to things that I should have already known. How can we ( homosexuals ) be so judgmental? Why do we reserve the right to cast a stone at someone, like we know what their situation is. If there's one thing I learned growing up in the kind of household I did, it's that you can never understand what someone is going through until you experience it for yourself.
Of course we all have the right to own an opinion on things, however that doesn't give anyone the right to voice it in such a way that it comes off insensitive and mean. We have no right to be angry at those that don't understand that homosexuality is not a choice if we can't understand that certain people handle certain things in different ways. Not everyone is lucky enough to be able to not only have the balls to jump out of the closet wearing a rainbow flag but also have a warm and supportive family there to catch you. I still to this day, don't think I'd be "out" had my mother not confronted me on the subject. I would be one of those people that some of my closest friends call, a fake or a liar. It saddens me to think that gays can be some of the most narrow-minded people of all. All of the heinous issues that exist in the world, wether it be racism or sexism exist within our own little subculture.
I got so upset last night when I realized that people are so quick to forget how they got to where they are now. It's never difficult for ANYONE to "come out". It was one of the most frightening things I've ever had to go through and I'll never ever forget it. Maybe this is why I'm able to sympathize with people who are afraid to come out of the closet. So what if someone's not out but they're going to gay clubs, HOW DOES THAT AFFECT YOU OR ANYONE AROUND YOU? I think we ask the faith based organizations and our President the same type of question when they push so hard to take away our right to marry.
I guess I'm just mostly upset because I was naive to think that those people I kept close to me held something of the same views as I did and I was wrong. I just hate when someone is so quick to judge someone else without getting to know them first. It's a little disheartening when you find out people you think you know very well... you don't really know at all. I just hope that one day we'll realize that we are just as bad as those that denounce us and our culture. Instead of throwing stones at someone trying to enter our community in a different way than we did, we should offer support. Even if we can't or don't understand or even agree, is it too much for us to hold out a hand or extend some knowledge of experiences.